Gay Blogger (Unawares) Reveals Source of Same-Sex Attraction: Child Abuse

It's time to declare a harsh truth on the matter of homosexuality and transgenderism. The destructive behaviors, the false identities are the result of neglect, trauma, confusion, and molestation.

People who engage in these behaviors are victims themselves, so it's understandable that people are initially reticent to criticize the behaviors and condemn the agenda. No one wants to be labeled "anti-gay" or "anti-trans."

However, the origins of these harmful behaviors and pernicious lies are neither gay nor transitory. They create a lifetime of harm, and they are based on hurt at the outset.

We need to stand for truth so that we can set people free and help them (and others) stand up to abuse, hate, and lies.

In Singapore, homosexual activist Sean Foo shared his story:

Sean Foo as a child

              

Growing up, I struggled a lot with my masculinity.

Why would a child struggle with being a boy or a girl? These are not innate problems or issues. You are born male or female. There is nothing inherently wrong with a person just on account of this fact. If someone struggles with this identity, or if they feel unsure about their identity, that problem is the result of an environmental issue, pressure or shame from the outside of the person.

So, where did this source of confusion come from for Little Sean?

At home, I was always getting scolded for not being manly enough. In school, my effeminate nature made me an easy target. I lost count of the number of times someone called me a ‘sissy’. I grew to really hate that word.

Here, we have a boy who was shamed by his family, and he was rejected by his peers. This is a perfect storm for fomenting same-sex attraction, same-sex attraction. I can't imagine the sense of hurt, the sense of rejection that he endured because his parents, presumably his father, told him that he was not really a man, that he was not acting the way that a man should. That kind of shame takes its toll on a person.

And that is precisely what happened:

So I tried very hard to adopt conventionally masculine mannerisms. Not doing so had consequences. I learnt to sit the ‘right’ way. Walk the ‘right’ way. Hold my wrists the ‘right’ way.  And over time, I succeeded. I moulded myself into someone most would consider ‘straight-acting’. So, the bullying stopped. And for a while, all was well.

When someone has to "try" to be something that they already are, there you have the basis for a emotional disorder, a mental challenge. To shame a child for not measuring up to a strange, if not unattainable standard, is child abuse. Kids need to be nurtured, strengthened, supported. They need to know that they are loved and accepted, even when they fail. That is how children grow strong, how they settle into their identity as men or as women.

I must repeat, based on the emotional harm that he endured as a kid, it's clear that Sean was abused as a kid, it's just that simple. He was not "born in the wrong body," nor was he gay at the outset. Just because boys have slightly different mannerisms does not make them any less of a boy. And the same holds true for girls.

But then… puberty struck.

Sean Foo as an adult

                             

I was 13 when it happened. A handsome senior in school caught my eye. And for the first time in my life, I experienced same-sex attraction. I panicked. So I rushed home to conduct some research to seek an explanation for what I was feeling.

Why did Sean experience this attraction? For years prior, he had been told, and thus he did not feel that he was a proper male. The lack of affirmation creates an emotional void, a dire need within a person. As a result, he was drawn to fit in with other males and try to fit into their mold. A number of reparative therapists talk about this issue at great length, that males will have emotional attachments to other males if they do not get the confirmation they need as children. That need, if left unresolved, turns into a sexual desire. For so long, Sean had felt that there was something wrong with him--because so many people in his own household told him that he was not male enough. What a shame. It's such a shame that he was treated so poorly by his family.

I do not want Sean to think that his family is essentially wicked. Whatever happened to his parents, whatever wrong believing they harbored, whether it was his father or whoever else, they projected this lie onto their son. Sadly, Sean has suffered under this lie, and that is wrong. Someone should have affirmed him as a boy when he was a boy.

I remember vividly the wave of relief that swept over me when I read that same-sex attraction was a normal phase during puberty. That made sense to me. After all, I was in an all-boys school. I was convinced that once I graduate, I would grow out of all this confusion.

Sean himself recognized the confusion in his life. He was confused early on because he was told that he was not really "boyish" or manly enough, when the truth is that he was already a male, and that there was no need for him to try to be "more manly."

In my case however, it was never a phase. My homosexual tendencies followed me as I proceeded on to junior college. It didn’t matter that my junior college had an abundance of girls. My heart only saw men.

These identity issues will linger with people if they do not hear the truth and get the proper care and attention that they need. It's no surprise that these issues did not abate for him, because at the outset his own family dishonored him unfairly.

I was so deep in denial that I somehow managed to convince myself that I was straight despite the fact that I was crushing on guys around me all the time.

The only denial that Sean has been struggling with is the lie that he is not really a man, when true to form he was born a male, and he has nothing to be ashamed of. The shame and misunderstandings from his childhood were wrong, and they imposed on him a false impression. Notice the pain and confusion that he went through? I cannot stress enough how abusive it is for parents to shame their children, to damage them emotionally by denying and denigrating their true basic identity.

In my desperate bid to conform, I tried very hard to develop feelings for the opposite sex. I dated a couple of girls over the years. But for obvious reasons, none of them worked out. But I never gave up. Convinced that it was just a matter of meeting the right girl. Being gay was simply not an option for me.

Notice throughout his testimony this theme of "I tried very hard." This constant effort to try to be something that he already is will create so many problems. There is something about human nature, that the more one tries t be something that seems unattainable, the worse the problem becomes.

In fact, Paul the Apostle writes extensively about this struggle in Romans 7:

"19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.

"20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

"21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me." (Romans 7:19-21)

It took me some time. 10 years to be exact. But I finally had that long belated epiphany at the age of 23. There was no life changing incident that triggered it. I just woke up one day and acknowledged to myself that I was gay. And with that simple revelation, the inner turmoil that plagued my life for a decade dissipated.

Here, Sean just gives into the lie, because he cannot understand why he continued to have that struggle. The fact is that he has operated under a larget yet more subtle lie, one which was imposed at him at too young an age: that he was not "manly" enough.

I can only hope that someone someday will inform him that there was nothing wrong with him as a boy, and that he needs the affirmation in the truth of who he is, nothing more:

"And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:32)

It's time for us to intervene against these lies and stand for truth. It's time for us to tell people who struggle with LGBT issues that they are not defined by their feelings, nor should they limit themselves to what people said about them when they were younger. They need to embrace the radical and releasing truth that they were not born "gay," and that they do not have to give into feelings that will lea them to more harm, pain, and loss.

Rep. Tom McClintock: In Defense of Governor Newsom

 Rep. Tom McClintock (R-Roseville) took to the floor of the House of Representatives to praise--yes, PRAISE--Governor Newsom for violating his own COVID-19 edicts, orders, and lockdowns when he went to the French Laundry restaurant and dined with 20 other people, no masks, no social distancing, and no fear about catching or passing on COVID-19 to someone else.

The hypocrisy of these arrogant government elites sparked Rep. Tom McClintock to actually praise the Governor for doing what every American should be able to do: take care of themselves, live their lives, practice common sense, and not allow the overbearing regulations about COVID-19 weigh down on their lives.

Read his speech below, and let us all do what Governor Newsom did and live our lives as we see fit!

In Defense of Governor Newsom

November 19, 2020 

Speeches

Congressman McClintock delivered the following remarks on the House floor:

 

In Defense of Governor Newsom

November 19, 2020

 

Mr. Speaker:

 

I rise this morning in defense of Governor Gavin Newsom who recently defied his own idiotic Covid edicts as he partied at one of the few restaurants that he has not yet forced out of business.  I defend him because he was doing what we all once did in a free society: make our own decisions over what risks we are willing to run and what precautions we are willing to take according to our own circumstances to protect our own health.

 

Yes, Covid is a nasty bug and a quarter of a million Americans have died while having it.  But this isn’t the Bubonic Plague.  The CDC’s best estimate is that if you are under 49, your chance for surviving Covid – it you get it – is 99.92 percent.  Even for those over 70 the survival rate is 94.6 percent.  

 

Forty percent who get it don’t even know they have it.  Yet we have allowed our officials to ruin our quality of life over it – destroying countless businesses, throwing tens of millions into unemployment, robbing our children of their educations and shredding our most cherished rights as Americans.

 

Governor Newsom’s night of partying should be a wake-up call to every American.
 

Every time we step outside our homes, the risks we face multiply.  A free society assumes that its citizens are competent to assess those risks, balance them against the avoidance costs, and to manage their decisions in a generally responsible way.  It’s called common sense, and it’s a necessary prerequisite for self-government and liberty.

 

The choices of an octogenarian with emphysema might be very different from those of a healthy governor in California.  Only a fool would claim the omniscience to make an informed judgment for every person in every circumstance in every community.  Sadly, this crisis has revealed that fools abound in public office and that a fool with power can quickly become a petty tyrant.    

 

Which brings us back to Governor Newsom.  These government nannies love to tell us that they’re just following the science.  What does the science tell us?  It tells us that Covid poses virtually no risk to children but can be severe among the elderly.  So, what did these lockdown leftists do?  They closed all the schools and ordered infected patients into nursing homes!

 

The science tells us that outdoor transmissions of the virus are extremely rare and that 80 percent of infections occur in people’s homes.  So what did these lockdown leftists do?  They closed our beaches, parks and campgrounds and ordered people to stay at home!

 

The science tells us that obesity is a contributing factor to the severity of the disease.  So what did these lockdown leftists do?  They closed all the gyms and kept the liquor stores open!

 

These lockdowns haven’t saved lives.  The states with the most stringent lockdowns generally have the highest mortality rates from Covid.  Utah stayed open while next door, Colorado shut down.  Utah currently has half the Covid mortality rate and 3/4 the unemployment rate as Colorado.  But the lockdowns have cost countless lives from suicides, drug and alcohol abuse, domestic violence, and deferred health screenings and treatments.  

 

Recently, Governor Newsom demanded that restaurant diners replace their masks after every bite, but also minimize the times they take them off.  I guess that means take very big bites.  Thanksgiving dinners are allowed in California, but only when they are held outside, guests are seated six feet apart, and they last no more than two hours.  It’s all right to use the bathroom, but only if it is frequently sanitized. Otherwise, presumably you’ll just have to use the bushes.  And for God’s sake – NO SINGING!

 

I have wondered how much longer the American people are going to tolerate this nonsense?  

 

So let us not criticize Governor Newsom.  Perhaps he has just offered us all deliverance from his own folly.   

 

Nor should we criticize the California legislators who ignored travel and quarantine restrictions to junket to Hawaii.  Nor should we ridicule Speaker Pelosi for choosing not to wear a mask in a hair salon that was forced to close for the rest of us.  

 

Good for them.  They’re demonstrating by their own actions the freedom that every American citizen needs to reclaim from these very same people.  The governor SHOULD make his own decisions about running his own life.  I only ask that he and his ilk would stop telling the rest of us how to run ours.  

Update On My Health: The Love of the Father Produces Divine Health

It's been about two months since my stroke, transient ischemic attack, and the attending health issues which had accompanied this crazy spell.

The most frustrating aspect of it all occured two days after I had the stroke. I thought that the medical issues, the medicine issues, had all been taken care of. Then, Sunday morning, 12:30am to be precise, I felt numbness along the left side of my body as well as urinary pain.

I went to the nearest emergency room, where I waited for five hours before a bed was finally freed up for me. Then I received a new medication, then I was shipped back to Kaiser a second time. I was really unhappy. I just didn't want to have doctors shooting in the dark giving me another medication, trying this one or that one in their best efforts to get my blood pressure under control.

UGH!

Thankfully, from June 10, 2019 onward, my health steadily improved.

I had already changed my diet drastically after the May 30th physical, that physical in which my doctor announced: "I have never seen blood pressure numbers that high!" And the numbers only got higher after thirty minutes.

No more diet soda. No more soda at all. That was easy to do, especially because within one day, the tension headaches which I feared the most--never happened. I had a slight headache in the morning on May 31st, but after that, there as no long-term pain, no caffeine withdrawals. That was a miracle in itself.

Then I began changing my eating habits. I had to really think about what it would mean for me to see my weight decrease. At the May 30th physical, I weighed 232 lbs. The textbook weight for someone my size, 6 feet 3 inches, is 200 pounds.

From that day forward, I resolved to make my meals as much as I could. My doctor also told me that consistent weight lost depended more on counting calories, and not just on exercise. That's a mistake which seems to catch a lot of people off guard. No matter how much exercise someone works into one's daily life, nothing facilitates weight loss like taking in fewer calories per day.

The fact is that I was eating too much, in that I did not need to eat as much as I was eating, From there, I just stayed away from fast food for good. One time, when I was really hunger, did I eat out, but even then I spread out the meal over three different meal periods.

When it comes to ensure weight loss, I just resolved to eat less.

Something deeper has taken place in my life, and thank Christ Jesus, for the deeper revelation of His love for me. That's what it really comes down to. It's not enough to change the outside. We need to let God change us on the inside.

This verse came up a number of times when I was pondering how I was going to get back into trimmer weight:

"Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him." (1 John 2:15)

Followed by:

"For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world." (1 John 2:16)

"Lust of the flesh" includes excessive drinking, eating, or any other perverse pursuit of pleasure.

I was eating food that tasted good, even when I was not hungry. I was drinking an excessive amount of diet soda, when there as no need for doing so.

What is the antidote to excessive eating, drinking, etc.? You need to let the love of the Father in? His love more than suffices. The more that I realized how much God as Father loved me, the less desire there was to eat sweets.

Pastor Prince offered a wonderful mini-sermon on dieting, too:

"Honor hunger" -- what a concept!

I had pretty much lost touch with what it means to feel hungry. Most people just eat because it's "Time to Eat." How about getting out of this mundane habit. Instead, let's eat because we are hungry.

"Honor feeling full." Another great concept. What does it feel like to know that you have eaten enough, and therefore don't have to eat anymore? Basic ideas, but worth getting in touch with.

These are the divine principles that have helped me to lose weight steadily, in a healthy fashion.

I weighed 232 lbs. on May 30th, the day of my physical. Today, I weight 209 lbs!

There are shorts and pants that I am wearing now that I could not wear for ten years. I have a suit, full jacket and slacks, that I was not able to wear for 15 years, but I am not able to wear. This is a great feeling!

As for my blood pressure, the numbers began to get steadily lower from June 10th, onward. The medications assigned to me were much more effective. One of the pills, Amlopadine, has a slow onset but lasts throughout the day. My BP numbers began to go down steadily. The other medication I take, Lizonpril and HCTZ, is a combination of two medications. Finally, the doctors working as a team were able to establish a solid medicine program.

I was also losing weight, and that helps lower blood pressure numbers, too. At one point, about a week after getting a solid, stable medicine regimen, I began feeling faint in the head from time to time. I would see white spots, and sometimes darker spots. On a Thursday, I tried to give blood at the local Red Cross in Torrance, and when they read my blood pressure, it came up 96/60!

That is really low! For someone my size, that's a little too low! The nurses on site suggested that I not give blood at this time, and I am glad they did. I ended up walking home that day, and I was so tired, to light-headed, I ended up resting the rest of the day.

Now that I was losing weight, now that I was taking meds, I faced the risk of having too low blood pressure! This was an going problem or me when I started exercising. I began jogging as well as walking, and after a rigorous one-hour routine, I would feel light-headed again!

This was too much. I contacted my doctor, and we arranged for me to have another appointment. When I met with him again, he was really impressed to see how much weight I was losing. He agreed that I should stop taking the Amlodapine, but just hold onto the remaining pills just in case my blood pressure started increasing again.

From that point on, I have continued losing the extra fat, eating only when I am hungry, and avoiding processed foods. As of now, I have had a consistently solid, healthy BP in 110-115/70-75 range.

Very good! Some mornings, I wake up with a diastolic pressure in the low to mid 60s, which is also really good!

So, how's my health? I am resting more in the love of my Father for me, and He has produced in me divine health. I no longer have a desire to run off and eat sweets. I have less and less of a taste for sugary foods. I have been eating more fruits and vegetables, and I have really acquired a taste for these and other natural foods, too.

I cannot tell you how many times I had struggled with my weight. I began praying to God for wisdom on how to deal with the extra weight on me for a long time. Finally, I submitted, willing to accept that I had to change what I was thinking, what I was believing. Now that I am lighter than I used to be, I enjoy running and walking more than I had before. The incentive of feeling lighter, fitting in more of clothes, outweighs whatever pleasure I got from eating sugary goods.

It feels so good to finally have lower weight across the board! It's even better to have a mind and heart that are transformed, so that the cravings internally are gone. It's no find to rely on your own strength. It's better to receive and keep receiving God's grace. Once the inside changes, then the outside can change without much effort.

I feel stronger and healthier now than I did when I was 28 years old. I weigh less now than I did in college, even in high school, since I was 6 feet 3 inches when I graduated my senior year, but I never weighed less than 220 lbs.

My health is doing well, but this health depended on a more important soul prosperity, which has been rolling in stronger than ever!

"Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." (3 John 2)

Concerned About My Health? Here's the Truth

UPDATE:

There were many concerns people have shared about my health. Yes, I had a stroke. Yes, I had a transient ischemic attack (A two-fer! How about that?!)

1. I am not terminally ill, so please do not think for one second that I have become enfeebled.

2. The truth is that I now feel stronger than I did when I was 28, or even when I was 18!

3. I have lost so much weight. I had topped off at 255 lbs. in 2016. Today, I am now at 209 lbs.

4. The BP meds have worked so well, that now my BP has sometimes gotten too low! That can be worse! LOL!

5. It sucks when people have said to me "Be careful! You are getting old. It sucks getting old!"

LOL! You need to read your Bibles, folks!

"He satisfieth thy mouth with good things; so that thy youth is renewed like the eagle's." (Psalm 103:5)

and

"Your flesh shall be fresher than a child's: he shall return to the days of his youth:" (Job 33:25) -- This has been happening to me.

Getting old is for people in the world. I don't play by their rules, nor am I ruled by this world.

😎😎😎

The Gospel Brings Health, Wealth, and Prosperity to the World

Pastor Joseph Prince of Singapore (my pastor by proxy, if I may add), has noticed that with the preaching of the Gospel has followed immense health, wealth, and prosperity. Historians secular and sacred have noticed the strong correlation, too. With the preaching of the Good News, from the Roman Empire to the Reformation to the Charismatic rivals of the 1970's to the Present Day, our world has become richer and finer with the Word.

Indeed.

The message of the Gospel comforts all who are lost that in Christ they are found again. Despite the alienation of sin, set in motion by our forefather Adam, the Second Adam, we can be granted life and truth through His Son Jesus.

The Gospel takes us from death to life; from poverty to prosperity; from depression to celebration.

It is indeed Good News, especially to a sighing, crying, dying world.

Here is the Gospel made simple out of the mouth of the Apostle Paul:

38Be it known unto you therefore, men andbrethren, that through this man is preached unto you the forgiveness of sins: 39And by him all that believe are justified from all things, from which ye could not be justified by the law of Moses.

Here are the guarantees that come with the Gospel, for those who believe on Jesus as Savior: here, now and forevermore!

"In the way of righteousness is life; and in the pathway thereof there is no death." (Proverbs 12:28)

And

"I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread." (Psalm 37:25)

Let us never forget the promises outlined to us in the New Covenant which God the Father has cut for us through His Son Jesus Christ!

"10For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people:

11And they shall not teach every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the Lord: for all shall know me, from the least to the greatest.

12For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more." (Hebrews 8:10-12)

Jesus did not die on the Cross only for us to avoid death and hell.

He wants us to reign in life: His Life!

"For if by one man's offence death reigned by one; much more they which receive abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness shall reign in life by one, Jesus Christ.)" (Romans 5:17)

What about John's most important words to his friend Gaius?

"Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." (3 John 2)

How do we prosper our souls?

3For I rejoiced greatly, when the brethren came and testified of the truth that is in thee, even as thou walkest in the truth. 4I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth." (3 John 3-4)

The Gospel, the Good News of Jesus Christ, brings health, wealth, and prosperity to the world, to all who believe on the name of Jesus!

Steve Scalise Update: Condition Downgraded to "Serious", Returned to ICU

Please, please keep Congressman Steve Scalise in your prayers.

Here is his latest press release:

Update on the Condition of Majority Whip Steve Scalise, Courtesy of MedStar Washington Hospital Center

Jul 5, 2017

WASHINGTON, D.C.— MedStar Washington Hospital Center provided the following update on the condition of House Majority Whip Steve Scalise:

"Congressman Steve Scalise has been readmitted to the Intensive Care Unit at MedStar Washington Hospital Center due to new concerns for infection. His condition is listed as serious. We will provide another update tomorrow, July 6."

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