We will solve many of our problems if we give up some hollow assumptions.
First of all, let us give up the hollow pretenses that if we had had better parents, then our lives would not be suffering today.
Read through the Bible, and you will find that dysfunctional families are the norm, not the exception.
Even the graced, blessed King David was an indulgent father who did nothing when one of his sons raped his daughter, and then when another son attempted to take his kingdom, David pleaded that his rebellious son would be spared.
God does not bless us for having a good pedigree.
He blesses us by taking us out sinful Adam and placing us in blessed Christ Jesus.
"12Therefore, as through one man sin entered into the world, and death through sin; and so death passed unto all men, for that all sinned:— 13for until the law sin was in the world; but sin is not imputed when there is no law. 14Nevertheless death reigned from Adam until Moses, even over them that had not sinned after the likeness of Adam's transgression, who is a figure of him that was to come." (Romans 5:12-14)
When Adam sinned, the whole human race sinned with him. Because of Adam, every human being is born dead in trespasses.
How unfair, right? Then comes the Glorious Gospel":
"15But not as the trespass, so also is the free gift. For if by the trespass of the one the many died, much more did the grace of God, and the gift by the grace of the one man, Jesus Christ, abound unto the many. 16And not as through one that sinned, so is the gift: for the judgment came of one unto condemnation, but the free gift came of many trespasses unto justification. 17For if, by the trespass of the one, death reigned through the one; much more shall they that receive the abundance of grace and of the gift of righteousness reign in life through the one, even Jesus Christ." (Roman 5: 15-17)
God's grace through His Son overcomes Adam's sin, but also grants us eternal life, here and now as well as forever in eternity. In fact, every person who trust in Christ receives a better standing than Adam, who had to avoid eating from the Knowledge of Good and Evil.
We all received a conscience, one which nags us for doing wrong, or even thinking and feeling wrong.
In Christ, even though we walk around in our human bodies, we can rest assured that sin in the flesh has been crucified, and we can receive a forever knowledge of God's grace for every sin which we feel, think, or face.
The more that we stop relating to ourselves in Adam, and any past abuse or frustration or neglect in Adam through our parents, the greater our life and peace will be in Christ!