Gay Blogger (Unawares) Reveals Source of Same-Sex Attraction: Child Abuse

It's time to declare a harsh truth on the matter of homosexuality and transgenderism. The destructive behaviors, the false identities are the result of neglect, trauma, confusion, and molestation.

People who engage in these behaviors are victims themselves, so it's understandable that people are initially reticent to criticize the behaviors and condemn the agenda. No one wants to be labeled "anti-gay" or "anti-trans."

However, the origins of these harmful behaviors and pernicious lies are neither gay nor transitory. They create a lifetime of harm, and they are based on hurt at the outset.

We need to stand for truth so that we can set people free and help them (and others) stand up to abuse, hate, and lies.

In Singapore, homosexual activist Sean Foo shared his story:

Sean Foo as a child

              

Growing up, I struggled a lot with my masculinity.

Why would a child struggle with being a boy or a girl? These are not innate problems or issues. You are born male or female. There is nothing inherently wrong with a person just on account of this fact. If someone struggles with this identity, or if they feel unsure about their identity, that problem is the result of an environmental issue, pressure or shame from the outside of the person.

So, where did this source of confusion come from for Little Sean?

At home, I was always getting scolded for not being manly enough. In school, my effeminate nature made me an easy target. I lost count of the number of times someone called me a ‘sissy’. I grew to really hate that word.

Here, we have a boy who was shamed by his family, and he was rejected by his peers. This is a perfect storm for fomenting same-sex attraction, same-sex attraction. I can't imagine the sense of hurt, the sense of rejection that he endured because his parents, presumably his father, told him that he was not really a man, that he was not acting the way that a man should. That kind of shame takes its toll on a person.

And that is precisely what happened:

So I tried very hard to adopt conventionally masculine mannerisms. Not doing so had consequences. I learnt to sit the ‘right’ way. Walk the ‘right’ way. Hold my wrists the ‘right’ way.  And over time, I succeeded. I moulded myself into someone most would consider ‘straight-acting’. So, the bullying stopped. And for a while, all was well.

When someone has to "try" to be something that they already are, there you have the basis for a emotional disorder, a mental challenge. To shame a child for not measuring up to a strange, if not unattainable standard, is child abuse. Kids need to be nurtured, strengthened, supported. They need to know that they are loved and accepted, even when they fail. That is how children grow strong, how they settle into their identity as men or as women.

I must repeat, based on the emotional harm that he endured as a kid, it's clear that Sean was abused as a kid, it's just that simple. He was not "born in the wrong body," nor was he gay at the outset. Just because boys have slightly different mannerisms does not make them any less of a boy. And the same holds true for girls.

But then… puberty struck.

Sean Foo as an adult

                             

I was 13 when it happened. A handsome senior in school caught my eye. And for the first time in my life, I experienced same-sex attraction. I panicked. So I rushed home to conduct some research to seek an explanation for what I was feeling.

Why did Sean experience this attraction? For years prior, he had been told, and thus he did not feel that he was a proper male. The lack of affirmation creates an emotional void, a dire need within a person. As a result, he was drawn to fit in with other males and try to fit into their mold. A number of reparative therapists talk about this issue at great length, that males will have emotional attachments to other males if they do not get the confirmation they need as children. That need, if left unresolved, turns into a sexual desire. For so long, Sean had felt that there was something wrong with him--because so many people in his own household told him that he was not male enough. What a shame. It's such a shame that he was treated so poorly by his family.

I do not want Sean to think that his family is essentially wicked. Whatever happened to his parents, whatever wrong believing they harbored, whether it was his father or whoever else, they projected this lie onto their son. Sadly, Sean has suffered under this lie, and that is wrong. Someone should have affirmed him as a boy when he was a boy.

I remember vividly the wave of relief that swept over me when I read that same-sex attraction was a normal phase during puberty. That made sense to me. After all, I was in an all-boys school. I was convinced that once I graduate, I would grow out of all this confusion.

Sean himself recognized the confusion in his life. He was confused early on because he was told that he was not really "boyish" or manly enough, when the truth is that he was already a male, and that there was no need for him to try to be "more manly."

In my case however, it was never a phase. My homosexual tendencies followed me as I proceeded on to junior college. It didn’t matter that my junior college had an abundance of girls. My heart only saw men.

These identity issues will linger with people if they do not hear the truth and get the proper care and attention that they need. It's no surprise that these issues did not abate for him, because at the outset his own family dishonored him unfairly.

I was so deep in denial that I somehow managed to convince myself that I was straight despite the fact that I was crushing on guys around me all the time.

The only denial that Sean has been struggling with is the lie that he is not really a man, when true to form he was born a male, and he has nothing to be ashamed of. The shame and misunderstandings from his childhood were wrong, and they imposed on him a false impression. Notice the pain and confusion that he went through? I cannot stress enough how abusive it is for parents to shame their children, to damage them emotionally by denying and denigrating their true basic identity.

In my desperate bid to conform, I tried very hard to develop feelings for the opposite sex. I dated a couple of girls over the years. But for obvious reasons, none of them worked out. But I never gave up. Convinced that it was just a matter of meeting the right girl. Being gay was simply not an option for me.

Notice throughout his testimony this theme of "I tried very hard." This constant effort to try to be something that he already is will create so many problems. There is something about human nature, that the more one tries t be something that seems unattainable, the worse the problem becomes.

In fact, Paul the Apostle writes extensively about this struggle in Romans 7:

"19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.

"20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

"21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me." (Romans 7:19-21)

It took me some time. 10 years to be exact. But I finally had that long belated epiphany at the age of 23. There was no life changing incident that triggered it. I just woke up one day and acknowledged to myself that I was gay. And with that simple revelation, the inner turmoil that plagued my life for a decade dissipated.

Here, Sean just gives into the lie, because he cannot understand why he continued to have that struggle. The fact is that he has operated under a larget yet more subtle lie, one which was imposed at him at too young an age: that he was not "manly" enough.

I can only hope that someone someday will inform him that there was nothing wrong with him as a boy, and that he needs the affirmation in the truth of who he is, nothing more:

"And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:32)

It's time for us to intervene against these lies and stand for truth. It's time for us to tell people who struggle with LGBT issues that they are not defined by their feelings, nor should they limit themselves to what people said about them when they were younger. They need to embrace the radical and releasing truth that they were not born "gay," and that they do not have to give into feelings that will lea them to more harm, pain, and loss.

The True Source of Homosexual Pain: Self-Fixation

There is no greater source of pain for an individual than ... self.

The more that we look at ourselves, the more that we try to fix ourselves, the more that everything falls apart, the more that we see how so much of us does not measure up to a standard that we revere or seek to emulate.

Consider what happened to Adam and Eve when they sinned, eating from the tree that was good, but not good for them:

"6And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. 7And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons." (Genesis 3: 6-7)

When they ate from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil, Adam and Eve looked at themselves. They knew the Law, a standard which will forever bear witness to our failures, to our incapacity to live or do anything right apart from God. We cannot live independently of His life in us. It's just not possible. 

But Adam and Eve sent the message to God, their loving, gracious Creator, that they did not need Him, when they ate from the fruit of the tree that was good, but not good for them.

This is sin at its core: defiant, empty independence from God. "I don't need you, Lord. I can fix myself. I don't need you, Lord, I can figure out what to do on my own."

And such has been the tragedy of mankind since then. To be in bondage to oneself, to fall into this trap that we can fix ourselves if we keep looking at ourselves, look for faults, and look for ways to correct those faults on our own, is the fast road to disaster.

With this revelation in mind, consider now the testimony of a young homosexual in Singapore:

Confession: I Wish The Gay Scene Was More Accepting & Inclusive

This candid piece from a 25-year old gay Singaporean reveals how lonely and isolating it can be for guys who don’t fit into the mould of the insta-famous gays.

Dear Straight People,

I’m a 26-year old who has got nothing else to do on a Sunday night besides feeling depressed, so here’s me writing my story to pass the time.

How sad indeed, that he is dwelling on his feelings, how depressed he feels, and that he has "nothing else to do on a Sunday Night."

We can see right away why he is depressed: He is focused on himself. That is going to make anyone depressed.

Being a December baby has it’s pros and cons when I was younger, but nowadays, it just signifies how lost I am with where I am in my life.

Keep track of the number of times he uses the word "I" as well.

I guess the first time I realised I was attracted to boys was when I was in primary school. He had this boyish smell that made me want to know him better, and that somehow became the first time I felt something towards someone, wanting to do things for him just to know him better.

As a boy in primary school, he was preoccupied with himself early, as though he was not enough of a "boy." I have found this trend quite common among many of the testimonies from out-homosexuals, whether male or female. They are so uncomfortable in their very being as boys and girls, and they want to find some sort of affirmation of fulfillment from someone of the same sex.

This is not a sexual issue, though. It's an emotional lack, often originating in a lack of affirmation from the same-sex parent.

When I was in secondary school, I felt attracted to another boy in my class because he wore this super tight pair of pants that made his butt pop. Yeah, that was when I realised I was really into guys but I never spoke about it to anyone. I told myself to focus on my studies.

The emotional need turn into a sexual temptation. This transfer happens a lot for people who struggle with same-sex temptations.

And then booyah, NS came about.

SERVING NATIONAL SERVICE

It was 2013, I was just a dumb fat kid, actually looking forward to BMT since I wanted to lose weight.

Yet another reason he was so self-conscious. He focused on Himself a great deal, this time because of body image issues. 

The moment I stepped into my bunk, I glanced around the bunk and met eyes with another guy. I felt attracted to this person but it wasn’t intense, so I thought that hey, I should be ok.

 Again, keep track of "I ... I ... I ..."

But when I met another person from another bunk in the same platoon, I realised how utterly screwed I was with what I was feeling. I felt confusion and the confusion only grew worse when guys were just running back and forth from the bunks to the toilets in just their briefs.

We are getting a window into the intense inner dialogue of an individual. The fact that he has fixated on his inner stirrings, his inner worries and cares shows once again how much he is in bondage to himself.

I grew depressed, hated myself for what I felt as I believe that it was wrong to be gay. I longed to fit in with the rest of my army mates, to be able to sit around the table to discuss girls and be a ‘regular straight male’.

 Self-hatred is a form of self-centeredness, nothing more ... and nothing less. Notice that he wanted to fit in with the rest of his fellow soldiers. That sense of feeling left out, of feeling out of place because of a sense of inferiority, of inadequacy, better explains his same-sex temptations.

But I couldn’t change who I was. During my 2-year stint in National Service, I fell for another 2 guys. All 3 of them are straight and it totally crushed me. My depression got worse as a result. I wished that there was a pill that could turn me straight.

 None of us can change ourselves using our own knowledge, reason, or experience. The answer to this fixation with self cannot be found within ourselves, for all this self-preoccupation is precisely the problem. What is needed, then, is to be preoccupied with the truth.

ROAD TO SELF ACCEPTANCE

The road to self acceptance took some time for me.

 When reading the rest of this blog, you will find that he has not accepted himself. He started out this post talking about how depressed he felt. That does not sound like "self-acceptance" one bit.

The first time I came out to someone was when I told my best friend from poly. I remembered how frightened I was. Fortunately, she told me that it’s okay, that she kinda figured what I wanted to talk to her about.

 

Fast forward to now, I’ve finally accepted myself for who I am. But the road to self acceptance certainly wasn’t a smooth journey for me. I still remember knocking on the door of my school counselor and crying in her office during my college days.

That counselor really failed this young man. She needed to tell him that his feelings do not define him, and that his proper sexual bearings will fall into proper alignment when he deals with the deeper sense of loneliness and inadequacy.

Although it took me quite some time to come to terms with my sexuality, slow progress is still better than no progress.

 The truth is that there has been no progress for this young man, based on the overall theme of what he has been sharing.

FEELING REJECTED BY THE GAY COMMUNITY

I may have accepted myself for who I am. But I feel unwanted by the gay scene in Singapore.

Again, notice the refrain of "I ... I ... I." The fact that he bases his sense of peace on whether others will accept him or not shows the true source of his depression: looking to other people to make him feel fulfilled and accepted.

I feel that I’m not good enough when I look at myself in the mirror and I compare myself to the insta-popular guys. It makes me feel like I shouldn’t exist. Even though I do want to know them (even trying to slide into their DMs), I know they’ll never reply.

 Again, we have proof that he really does not accept himself. This "self-acceptance" talk all comes up empty at the end of all his musings and ruminations.

Of course, like every other gay guy in Singapore, I did try the apps. But all it resulted in for me was silence.

 Oh Lord! Nothing will bring emptiness, loneliness, and depression more

I guess all I really wish for is just to have friends to celebrate my birthday with me or even just bring me to the gay scene and enjoy their time with me. But it feels like even that is too tough.

 The real need is companionship and peace, then? The real problem is a sense of loneliness. That is what is bothering him. The issue is not one of "self-acceptance" into homosexuality. Sadly. his delving into this sexual perversion only worsens the loneliness, the emptiness, the loss of identity and peace.

Being at work in the private sector, sometimes it still gets to me how I have no other way to spend time besides being at work, at home and doing some volunteer work.

I want to be called out by friends, hang out at tantric, have a few drinks, go to taboo, meet guys and have sex. But sadly, I still feel like I’m not good enough. Even though I went to the extent of losing weight from 86kg to 72kg recently.

Again ... "I ... I ... I ... I." No wonder this guy is sad, and small wonder that not many people want to hang out with him. People are self-centered, selfish, focused only on self are not that much fun to be around!

I’ve never been in a relationship nor have I had sex with anyone. Haha, I don’t even know if I’m a top or a bottom or versatile. I don’t even know what love feels like and that is really the saddest thing I could say.

Will writing all this here result in anything? I highly doubt so but yeah, I’m lonely and maybe I’ll just die sad and lonely.

I wish the gay scene in Singapore isn’t that hard to be a part of. But sadly, it is. I’m not sure if I’m the only lonely one here or if there are other gay guys out there facing the same issue.

But wouldn’t it be great if there was a club for LGBT youths to hang out together where it doesn’t feel like everything depends on your physical appearance.

Final Reflection

Homosexuals like this young man are focused on themselves. They see themselves as inadequate, failing to measure up. They are lacking something, they feel lost or incomplete in some way. In too many cases, that sense of self-focus is a result of sexual or emotional abuse, all of which is NOT THEIR FAULT!

But, how these individuals deal with these traumas, that is their responsibility.

One has to remark, also, that for all the talk about "gay lifestyle," and "being gay," we have yet another admission that there is nothing really gay at all about the homosexual scene or the lifestyles, behaviors, and customs attached to it.

Consider Paul the Apostle's struggle in Romans 7:

"15For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. 16If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. 17Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. 18For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. 19For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. 20Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me." (Romans 7:15-20)

Notice all the focus on self! Notice all the self-effort, too! Notice that Paul is constantly looking at himself, trying to make himself better through self-efforts.

And this self-fixation cannot fix anything!

The answer is to look to the source of our life, Christ HIMSELF (Romans 8:1; Colossians 3:4)

Open Secret: Homosexuals Are Homophobic

"Dear Straight People" Pro-Gay Website
Has Lots of Homophobia

It's not very often that one finds homosexual activists telling the truth. They offer all kinds of lies to justify their broken lives and destructive habits:

1. I was born this way.

2. Society is punishing me for being born this way.

3. If only society would accept it the way that I was born, I would be OK.

4. My parents love me because they accept me for whom I am, i.e. gay, trans, etc.

And so on.

Of course, no one is "born that way."

It is not the fault of any culture that there is so much harm and self-destruction among homosexuals.

Even in the most LGBT-affirming countries, all the health and mental problems that afflict homosexual populations are still prevalent.

And it's not love for parents to enable their children to fall into LGBT behaviors. That is actually a form of hate.

But, as I wrote at the outset, homosexual activists will sometimes tell the truth.

Check out these rather blunt truths that Sean Foo from "Dear Straight People" shared with the public:

Why Open Relationships Are Common Among Gay Men

The original URL link writes "Why Polyamory is Common Among Gay Men."

Homosexuals engage in multiple relationships, indulge in multiple sexual partnerships.

What's going on? Why is this happening?

Sean Foo "spills the tea":

Open relationships are rampant among gay men! No, I do not have any credible statistics or evidence to back my claim up. But if you happen to have any gay friends, chances are, he will probably tell you in a very jaded tone that monogamous gay relationships are fast becoming nothing but a gay fairy-tale.

Ok, maybe that was a slight exaggeration. Monogamy isn’t completely dead in the gay community, but it isn’t exactly the norm either. While polygamy does exist among heterosexual couples, it isn’t frowned upon in the gay community in the same way that it is among straight people. Polygamous straight couples tend to keep their swinging practices to themselves. Polygamous gay couples on the other hand, are generally pretty open to acknowledging that they aren’t sexually exclusive to one another.

Sean Foo
Out-Homo ... Phobe

It's an official and unofficial fact that homosexual conduct is conducive to promicuity, and as Sean himself admits, they are "proud" of it!

But Sean shares more:

And the general consensus for why open relationships are not only common, but generally accepted among gay men is that simply well, gay men are sluts!

Wow! This is pretty derogatory. One out-homosexual admits that other homosexuals are sexual deviants, promiscuous, abusing their bodies with themselves and other people. Pretty shameful, but clearly honest.

Indeed, a number of studies confirm that homosexuals have on average fifty partners. FIFTY!

And the self-loathing, the homophobia does not stop there:

Gay men however, aren’t as heavily influenced by social norms as straight people are. Gay men have always lived outside the rules of society. The same-sex attractions we experience naturally makes us social misfits. Thus, it follows logically that gay men aren’t going to adhere to social norms as much as straight people do. We are left to our own devices, each of us developing our own perspectives on how a relationship should be like. Some gay men subscribe to the heteronormative concept of monogamy. Others however, find the monogamous nature of heterosexual relationships irrelevant, thereby choosing to have an open relationship instead.

In other words, homosexuals only care about themselves. They don't care about the needs of their partner or rather "partners." They give themselves permission to break all rules, customs, and modes of acceptable conduct, because, once again, they want to play victim, claiming that their attractions are "normal."

However, is there anything really normal, or even acceptable about a male having abusive intercourse with fifty strangers on average?

Here's more proof of homosexual homophobia, from Sean Foo no less:

Dear Gay Men, Let’s Stop Hating Each Other!

Wow! Sean admits that homosexuals hate each other ... but they also hate themselves!

Let’s face it, we hate a lot of things. We hate homophobic people. We hate ourselves. We hate each other.

Homosexuals are a pretty hateful bunch, aren't they? And they admit it!

Homophobia within the gay community is a longstanding issue, one that is often swept under the carpet. Instead of addressing the homophobia prevalent within the gay community itself, we often rather focus on the hate coming at us from the straight community because that seems so much more easier to deal with.

Yet again, homoexual activist Sean Foo plays victim, talking about the so-called "straight community" and their hate for homosexuals. The truth is that people who oppose homosexuality do not come from a place of a hate, but a place of truth. The behaviors themselves are intrinsically disorderded, and they harm the individuals who practice them along with society as a whole. The people who push for militant, imposed "acceptance" of these behaviors are wreaking untold havoc on communities around the world, as well.

Again, telling people the truth is not hate. Lying to people, that is a form of hate. Forcing a deceptive, deceitful agenda on adults and children--that is a form of hate.

So, already, we expose that homosexuals are hateful to themselves, because they are giving into a lie to abuse their bodies. And now they plainly admit that they hate each other:

The cause of homophobia from within the gay community itself however, isn’t as obvious. Despite the fact that gay activists regularly preach about the importance of love during their campaigns, their message of love seems to have gotten lost within the gay community.

"Love is love" really is just an empty slogan among homosexuals, both the activists and those who don't really say or do anything besides ... one another. (However, the truth is that every homosexual is inevitably an activist, determined to normalize his--or her--perversion to the world and to seek then demand acceptance.)

From here, Sean Foo does not merely "spill the tea," but rather releases a tsunami of homophobia:

I mean, homophobia within the LGBT community is rampant! There are the gay men who taunt the fat ones. The gay men who detest the feminine ones. The gay men who ridicule the closeted ones. The gay men who only talk to other gay men of a certain race or ethnicity. The gay men who get labelled sluts after having sex on the first date. The gay men who get labelled sluts after having sex on the fifth date. The gay men who get labelled sluts after only having sex once. I could go on and on but I am sure you get the picture by now.

There is so much hate, and so little time to keep up with all of it.

Truly, the homosexual movement is built on homophobia. So much self-loathing inevitably leaks out into loathing other people. No matter how many sexual encounters a male (or female) may have with other same-sex partners, the love, respect, and intimacy they are seeking remains wanting. The deeper emotional, emotional, and psychological turmoil which they face on a day-to-day basis is never assuaged, never appeased, never resolved.

They have been lied to by a dedicated political effort to normalize something which can never be normal, and to believe something which is emphatically untrue, from the inside out.

Homosexuals are homophobic, and they cannot help but be so. There is no escape for them out of those perversions, and they are embittered by the pain and suffering which fines no outlet in sexual promiscuity.

"Aqua Man" Revisited: Ridiculous

 A few months ago, I commented on the Singapore short film "Aqua Man." This little movie claims to spotlight "conversion therapy," focusing on the hardships of a boy named Junjie and his religious mother who wants to "pray the gay" out of him with the help of the local pastor.

In the previous post, I commented how the movie gets the Gospel wrong, misconstrues the Bible, and basically distorts what true reparative (not "conversion") therapy is all about. One thing is certain: it is not "pray the gay away." Such arbitrary prayers and pleas are nowhere to be found in the Bible.

I am writing this second post to comment on a fawning article written about this film:

It only took one month for Jet Ho to conceptualize, write, cast and film Aqua Man, a short film about a young Singaporean boy that looks at the hot-button topic of gay conversion therapy. But that was just the beginning of his struggle for anyone to see it. Because it touches the media third rail of homosexuality, his story of student Jun Jie, his distressed mom, and Bible-armed pastor was rejected at least 15 times, by Ho’s count, by streaming platforms and film festivals

The truth is that the film was rejected by a number of art houses and film festivals because ... it's ridiculous. It's laughably bad!

Consider the following aspects of the movie;

1. In one scene, when "the therapy" is supposed to begin, Junjie is ordered to sit down, so that the pastor and his mom can pray for him. They are simply laying their hands on him. Then, for some reason, Junjie starts to grimace, as though in real pain. Then out of nowhere, he just stands up, shouts, and backs away.

Where is the real motivation here? There is nothing painful about someone praying for you. There is no torture here. The whole motif in this little movie is to give the impression that "conversion therapy" is a painful exercise of some kind. Give me a break!

2. The mother, out of nowhere, grabs her son by the arms and pushes him against the wall. At first, she was distraught, but now she's pushing her kid around? The inconsistency in the character development is somewhat jarring. 

3. The mother shames her son. "They call you Ah Gua [sissy, gay]!" But then, later on she says, "I promised I won't tell." What is the point of promising that she won't tell anyone when everyone "knows"?

4. The kid start crying, very weakly. Frankly, it's pretty pathetic, the bad acting at this point. Really? Are we supposed to believe any of this?

5. When the mother tries to bring her son back to the chair to be prayed for, he resists her, trying to pull himself away, but somehow he ends up pushing his mother to the ground. Huh? In what universe, in which physical dimension, does someone pull away from someone, yet end up pushing them to the ground? Please!

6.When the son tries to help his mother up again, she screams to resist him. Then Junjie walks out. Then, in another case of character "whiplash," she becomes morose and whiny, resigned and fearful, murmuring to herself "He will go to hell." None of this is believable.

7. And of course, the pastor finally starts doing something in the movie, kneels down next to the mother, but he conspicuously holds the Bible with "Holy Bible" gleaming into the camera. Why would the Pastor even be carrying the Bible with him in the first place? Clearly, this is an artificial shot. Who would hold their Bible like that, leaning up like that?

7. In the last scene, we see Junjie leave the HBD flat, simpering. If he's crying, it's clear that it's fake. No tears, just a lot of heaving. First year acting coaches would find so much to fault here. One could imagine this short film getting presented in first year acting courses with a disclaimer: "Don't let this happen to you."

Final Comments

The fact is that the film "Aqua Man" is fundamentally flawed. The notion that a son would become so rebellious just over a pastor praying for him just does not make sense. If anyone puts some thought into this film, it turns out that this film to be so poorly made, it's funny.

Jet Ho and other LGBT activists will play victim, and make the claimt that Singapore's movie industry or filming community rejected this film because of the serious, controversial nature of the subject. The truth is that this movie was rejected not because of its touchy subject matter, but because it was a bad movie. Such is often the case with propaganda films like this, desperate to push a message ("conversion therapy is bad"), especially when divorced from facts and truth.

"Aqua Man" basically drowns in its own bathos. It sucks, and it's laughably bad.

In a word, ridiculous.

Dear Gay People: Stop Playing Victim, Stop Victimizing Former LGBT People

The pro-LGBT blogsite based in Singapore "Dear Straight People" loves to play victim, all while victimizing Christians, conservatives, pro-family activists, and anyone with common sense, i.e. people who recognize the scientific facts that people are not born gay nor born in the wrong body.

Of course, they had to target TrueLove.Is, a ministry (also based in Singapore) which helps Christians struggling with LGBT issues and behaviors. They started a fight, and then faced considerable backlash for doing so.

Surprise!

Here's their blog post, relating their interview with the founder of TrueLove.Is and one of its first testimonials, Jason Lim, aka Jason Yolt. As expected, they play victim while painting TrueLove.Is and all former LGBT individuals as the bad guys. It's really stunning, the amount of shameless, brazen bravado that LGBT militants tend to manifest to justify themselves.

To make the post below easier to read, please keep in mind the following:

1. Anything written in plain type, as I am writing now, is my commentary.

2. Anything in bold type is from the "Dear Straight People" blog.

3. I will also indicate in [brackets] who is speaking/writing when I quote from the "Dear Straight People" blog.

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Dear Straight People,

On 10 July 2020, Facebook and Instagram announced that they will ban content promoting conversion therapy. In response, Dear Straight People published a post asking if Truelove.is should come under this ban.

It's not "conversion therapy" for the record. It's called reparative therapy or reintegrative therapy or therapeutic choice. Pretty straightforward. It sounds like religious extremism that LGBT activists like Sean Foo insist on calling this therapy a religious sounding name. 

For context, Truelove.is is an initiative by 3:16 Church that seeks to reach out to LGBTQ+ Christians. While Truelove.is does not engage in practices commonly associated with conversion therapy such as electrocution, the platform has often been accused of being modern day conversion therapy that represses the sexuality of its members.

Big mistake once again. Many of the story-sharers for TrueLove.Is are not LGBT. They do not identify with their feelings or their past behaviors. Why does the LGBT movement insist on trying to turn this into something essential and unchangeable? 

As expected, Dear Straight People’s post drew quite a reaction. What I did not expect however, were the many testimonies from LGBTQ+ Christians who felt like their voices were being invalidated.

Most active (and activist) homosexuals do not care about other people. They do not care about the feelings of others. They want to promote themselves and meet their own needs, while ignoring the needs of others. It's really quite shameful, but not surprising, all in all.

[Sean Foo:] I decided to reach out to the founder of 3:16 Church, Pastor Ian Toh, as well as a former feature of Truelove.is, Jason Lim, to better understand their perspectives.

If I’m going to be honest, the conversation did not get off to the best start.

Of course it didn't! Sean Foo wanted to silence people who want to break free of the lies of the LGBT agenda. The obtuseness is stifling.

Pastor Ian Toh was unhappy about Dear Straight People’s post, which rode on the back of many others who wanted Truelove.is to be banned. I retorted by pointing out that religious institutions in Singapore have a long history of cancelling the LGBTQ+ community.

Notice right away how Sean Foo plays victim. He is the one who started the social media by suggesting that TrueLove.Is should be cancelled. When Pastor Ian rightly called him out for wrongly attacking his ministry, Sean didn't take responsibility for his Internet temper tantrum, but then projected his failures onto the society as a whole. For all the times that the so-called "LGBT community" has been cancelled, Pastor Ian Toh and TrueLove.Is are not responsible for those outcomes. Besides, for the record, LGBT behaviors should be "cancelled". They should not be promoted to the public because they are based on lies, the inadvertently (or purposefully) seduce confused and at-rish children into those destructive behaviors, and they harm public health.

When we finally got the underlying tension out of the way, all parties came to an agreement on what this perspective piece will aim to do.

This article that you are about to read, will give Truelove.is the chance to present their perspective fairly. As such, both Ian and Jason will get ample opportunity to clarify their views and ensure that nothing they say gets taken out of context.

What this article will not be however, is a PR piece for Truelove.is. As such, neither Jason nor Ian will have any say over my own views on the matter.

This article was meant to be a PR piece for "Dear Straight People", to cover up for their bigotry.

Ultimately, the aim of this article will be to provide a conducive platform for both sides to better understand one another, which is especially important now in light of recent events.

Sure!

THE ORIGINS & AIMS OF TRUELOVE.IS

Religion and the LGBTQ+ community have always been at loggerheads. Fundamentally, this can be attributed to religious text denouncing same-sex acts to be a sin. While there are many other sins such as adultery, the LGBTQ+ community have always attracted an exceptional amount of opposition from religious groups.

First of all, there is no "LGBT community" as properly understood. People are not born gay, and behaviors do not create a final identity. So let's cut the crap right there.

The reason why LGBT behaviors have attracted considerable outrage and attention is that the people who engage in these behaviors want to normalize them at great length, whereas people who engage in adultery or fornication do not rally for special rights or demand parades to flaunt their specific brand of sexual depravity.

Launched in 2018, Truelove.is by 3:16 Church is co-founded and run by Pastor Ian Toh. When I ask Pastor Ian why he decided to focus on the LGBTQ+ community specifically, he explains:

[Pastor Ian Toh:] The Church of Singapore is a whole body and she reaches out on many fronts, like special needs children, youth at risk, depression etc.

3:16 Church has a small role to play in the Church of Singapore and it happens to be on LGBTQ matters. Our hope is that this will play a small role in making the church a safer place for the micro-minority to come out to.

These precious Christians often offer to share their testimonies knowing full well that they may face double pressure from both activists and some well-meaning but wrong positioning Christians – they are a minority of minorities. So, it is especially important to us that their life-stories are well and excellently told.

Christians who still struggle with these sexual issues deserve to seek help and know that they can get the help that they need without further shame, reproach, or confusion. This ministry is essential to the Body of Christ to stand up to the wiles and wickedness of a fallen world.

One such member of this minority within a minority is Jason Lim.

Incidentally, Jason was actually how I came to know about Truelove.is. On 27 October 2018, Jason was featured on a Truelove.is video. In the video, Jason recounts how he first felt same-sex attraction at the age of 14 after stumbling upon some gay porn. It was also during this time that Jason was first introduced to Christianity.

I find it quite interesting that Sean Foo of "Dear Straight People" does not recognize that Jason Lim (aka Yolt) started struggling with same-sex attraction syndrome when he was introduced to gay porn, then got hooked.

I must stress this point a second time: how is it that "Dear Straight People" owner Sean Foo can just skip over the damaging effects of pornography on young people, without a second thought? Encounters and later addiction to pornography describe the challenges of many people who struggle with homosexuality or transgenderism.

This a serious problem in the so-called LGBT "community": pornography and objectification of the body. These exploitative practices are rampant among homosexuals and transgenders. It's just unconscionable how Sean Foo and other LGBT militants in Singapore--and around the world--insist on turning a blind eye to this very disturbing trend in their "community."

Jason Yolt's testimony continues below:

[Jason Lim:] As I matured in the faith, I learned that identifying as a Christian had responsibilities as well. Despite that, I continued to “experiment” (if you know what I mean) until my “wake up call” at 24.

That ‘wake up call’ was a motorbike accident. His near death experience would go on to play a pivotal role in his life.

[Jason Lim:] I was given a miraculous second chance at life and had an encounter and revelation about who God is; He is unconditional love and at the same time, holy. That moved me to give up my own desires – to live in His way, not mine.

I gave up my right to self-gratification and many of my own desires that were not in alignment with God’s vision for my life. That wake-up call was my death certificate from a motorbike accident.

I am grateful for it. I found a sense of peace, joy and resolution in my life that was not there during the days when I explored my sexuality without boundaries.

Sexuality really has no joy or pleasures without those boundaries. This is a growing revelation for many people. Jason's story should be a learning experience for people who still struggle with LGBT issues/

Soon after, Jason found solace at 3:16 Church.

HOW TRUELOVE.IS SERVES THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY

Jason is one of many LGBTQ+ Christians who found a home in 3:16 Church. If you trawl through the many other stories on Truelove.is, you will notice a similar narrative. Truelove.is members have all found a sense of peace and community at Truelove.is after struggling with same-sex attraction. As Pastor Ian Toh explains,

[Pastor Ian Toh:] Truelove.Is focuses on Bible-believing Christians, and hopes to create a safe space for LGBTQ individuals within this group, plus those who are simply curious about what alternative there might be if they feel uncomfortable with living out their sexual attraction.

What sets Truelove.is apart from other religious institutions is that they do not condemn same-sex attraction itself. Although Truelove.is have shared stories of gay-turned-straight subjects before, Truelove.is does not coerce anyone to change their sexuality.

[Sean Foo:] Christianity generally adopts a hardline stance against the LGBTQ+ community. By asserting itself as a safe haven for Christians with same-sex attraction, it’s not hard to see the appeal of Truelove.is.

 Notice the essence of identity, false identity. "Christianity generally adopts a hardline stance against the ... community." LGBT behaviors do not really form a community. They are not a self-perpetuating community based on biological truth, but unsound, dangerous practices.

Truelove.is may not condemn experiencing same-sex attraction. But acting on that same-sex attraction is deemed to be sinful. In other words, Truelove.is advocates that people with same-sex attraction must strive to either become celibate, or conform by marrying someone of the opposite sex.

 Yes, acting on any form of same-sex attraction, with the intent to engage in sex, is sinful. Those behaviors are harmful. Any homosexual who is honest about the consequence of their behaviors will have to admit that sodomy and other forms of sexual deviance are ... harmful. Does Sean Foo support people harming themselves?

Jason himself, is the living embodiment of that belief. When I ask him if he identifies as a gay man, he responds:

[Jason Lim:] My definition of a gay man is someone who is attracted to and is open to being romantically partnered with another man.

I won’t deny that I have same-sex attraction but I’ve decided that I won’t pursue a romantic relationship with one. So by that definition, I do not inhabit the identity of a gay man.

Jason then goes on to elaborate,

Right now I am committed to living a healthy and fulfilling life of singleness, while remaining open to the possibility of pursuing marriage with a woman one day.

COMMON CRITICISM AGAINST TRUELOVE.IS

Truelove.is may have only launched in 2018. But they have already attracted a considerable amount of detractors.

That does not mean that they are doing anything wrong. On the contrary, the fact that LGBT militants are going out of their way to shut them down suggests that they are doing something right, telling the truth about inherently destructive behaviors and an entire agenda that is based on lies.

Truelove.is purports to be a safe space for LGBTQ+ Christians. But critics argue that Truelove.is cannot claim to be all-loving if members are pushed to repress their sexual desires.

There is no repression when you are rejecting thoughts and feelings which do not line up with your true identity. People may get angry, but that does not mean that they have to be a slave to their feelings, does it?

Truelove.is treats same-sex acts as a sin to resist. Succumbing to same-sex attraction is often implied to lead to emptiness or tragedy. In a recent video, Tou Chen recounts having sex with 3 to 4 men every night. In another video, Jamie Wong talks about how her pursuit of a same-sex relationship caused her to fall into depression.

Same-sex attraction syndrome is something to reject, not just resist. Such behaviors do indeed lead to great emptiness. Many of the stories shared in "Dear Straight People" confirm this sad reality.

By painting such a bleak picture of the LGBTQ+ ‘lifestyle’, Truelove.is is often accused of brainwashing its members into rejecting their sexuality. And therein lies my main concern. I couldn’t fathom why anyone would want to choose such a path when there are much healthier ways of reconciling someone’s faith with their sexuality.

There is no brainwashing when telling the truth. There is "metanoia," or repentance because one hears the truth and is set free.

Due to the formidable marketing power of Truelove.is, Christians might not be aware of alternatives to coping with unwanted same-sex attraction. For example, Free Community Church is Singapore’s only LGBTQ+ affirmative church that encourages its members to form healthy normal same-sex relationships. Oogachaga also offers affirmative counselling for the LGBTQ+ community. Pastor Ian clarifies,

[Pastor Ian Toh:] They are all aware of a church in Singapore that teaches that homosexual acts are not wrong. Why don’t they all flock there? Would not that be problem solved for them? But they would not and could not!

One reason is that they do not believe that Free Community Church’s teaching square with their sincere understanding of the Bible.

Jason goes on to elaborate,

[Jason Lim:] I have a friend who attends Free Community Church… My gay affirming friends and I are clear about the differences in our life choices; like having boyfriends or clubbing at Tanjong Pagar… or in my case, not choosing those.

We respect each others decisions and connect, complain and bond over many other things.

[Sean Foo:]By rejecting his sexuality, Jason has inadvertently committed himself to a life of celibacy and solitude. Jason has never had a relationship before. And he probably never will. Although he hopes to marry a woman one day, he acknowledges that he rarely feels attraction to the opposite sex.

Notice the false premise. "Dear Straight People" insists that Jason is rejecting "his sexuality" because he doesn't want to engage in homosexuality. The truth is that Jason is restoring his sexuality!

[Jason Lim:] In all honesty, having same sex desires and seeing my gay friends attached does have me feeling some level of FOMO.

But every time I come to that crossroad between having a boyfriend or not, I find myself more eager to have an intimate relationship with God. This comes from my own experience of dating guys – I find it satisfies my emotional need but no more than that.

In the end, I don’t really feel I’m “missing out” that much after all!

Whatever men need emotionally, they will not find in a false sexualized relationship with another man. Men were not designed to fulfill such a need in that fashion for other men.

[Sean Foo:] It’s a fair point. And the more I talk to them, the less rebuttals I have. Truelove.is members consciously choose not to act on their same-sex attraction. That is their choice and their religious freedom. And we should respect it.

Then "Dear Straight People" gets into a confused tirade about religious freedom v. religious extremism:

RELIGIOUS FREEDOM IS NOT THE SAME AS RELIGIOUS EXTREMISM.

After talking to both Pastor Ian and Jason Lim, I believe that they are genuine in wanting to help LGBTQ+ Christians.

Again with the gaslighting and misleading comments. There are no "LGBT Christians." There are Christians, that is all. No person is defined their personal feelings or preferences. Let's stop with this nonsense.

The overarching principle of Truelove.is is that homosexual practices is a sin to be resisted. Consequently, Truelove.is views Christian LGBTQ+ people as precious souls that need care and understanding. That is why they always profess to come from a place of love.

However, Jaime Wong’s example suggests that these ex-gay members are not merely practicing religious freedom. They may harbour highly radicalised beliefs. And religious extremism should have no place in a secular society.

This is a disgusting smear against TrueLove.Is. This line of thinking is becoming more prevalent in so-called free societies, in which anyone who opposes homosexuality and transgenderism, or embraces Christian, conservative views is listed, defamed, maligned as an "extremist." This is outrageous behavior.

A distinction must be made between religious extremism and someone being extremely religious. Radicalised religious beliefs are dangerous. A simple google search will show you why.

As if Sean "I was born this way" Foo has any business defining one or the other. Frankly, LGBT militants are more Pharisaical and extremist than Christians are by and large. They fight and demean people repeatedly who simply speak the truth and recognize that sexually deviant behaviors are inherently destructive.

If someone wants to turn their back on their sexuality because of religious reasons, that is their religious right. And the LGBTQ+ community should respect their choice.

Similarly, backlash to radical beliefs shouldn’t be misconstrued as an assault on religion. Nor should it be dismissed as cancel culture from the left. If your religious beliefs are radical enough to elicit such a strong response, perhaps there’s a possibility that your religion is being exploited for right-wing extremism.

The belief that marriage is for one man and one woman is not an extreme view. The notion that homosexuality is wrong and should note b promoted, that is not extremism, nor should such views be marginalized or criminalized.

Ultimately, there is no clear evidence that Truelove.is or 3:16 Church perpetuate radical beliefs. In my interviews with both Pastor Ian and Jason Lim, they seem like reasonable people.

Well, TrueLove.Is does share one very important radical view:

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)

But I think it’s important for LGBTQ+ Christians to know what they are signing up for should they choose to join Truelove.is and its affiliates. In the pursuit of religious approval, you may ultimately be committing yourself to a life of solitude and celibacy.

Just be careful that those religious beliefs don’t cross the line into becoming religious radicalisation.

Again, the only real radicalization is the perverse push to normalize sexual perversion. Full Stop.

In summary: Dear Gay People, stop telling Straight People that you are victims. Stop acting like you are victims, start taking responsibility for your lives, and give up the mental illnesses that induce you to think that sexual fantasies with the same-sex will complete you.

"Dear Straight People" Takes Down "Gay High School Romance" Report: Why?

 A few months back, I rediscovered a post from "Dear Straight People", the pro-LGBT blog based in Singapore, hosted and written predominantly by Sean Foo. The article featured a gay male couple that had first connected in high school, and they had stayed together ever since. One of the males, Jason Yin, was an Asian American, and the other, Thorin Duffin, was a British ex-pat who moved to the United States when he was in high school. The two hooked up during that period of time.

The point for pushing these stories is to give the impression that homosexual relationships are natural, lovely, admirable. The LGBT movement wants to use every emotional ploy and tool at its command to normalize the behaviors, which are inherently destructive, and based on wrong believing and harmful behaviors. And of course, the intersectionality of an Asian-AMERICAN and a Anglo Briton, coupled with the fact that one of them is an immigrant, is too much for these progressive story-tellers to pass up.

A few days ago I tried to find that story, the link was down. Apparently, Sean Foo had taken the story down!

But Archive.org makes sure that we can still find everything! Nothing disappears on the Internet.

Here's the link.

Here's the masthead photo for the story:

It looks like such a star-studded, warm-hearted story, doesn't it? The homosexual "romance" of two men is just like the love story between natural high school sweethearts, too, right? No one should get upset about same-sex couples wanting to be treated like natural couples, because there is nothing untoward or out of place with any of this, right?

Well, consider how their "romance" began:

Picture this.

In the late nineties, Thorin relocates from England to the United States. In high school, his English accent and boisterous nature help him stand out. His profile rises even higher when he is appointed captain of the football team. Within a short span of time, Thorin effortlessly climbs the social ladder to become one of the most popular guys in high school. He is even crowned prom king.

Fate conspires such that Thorin is seated behind Jason. Unlike Thorin, Jason is quiet and studious. The likeable but ‘invisible’ Asian American that has recently become a staple in teenage rom-coms.

Maybe it’s hormones. Or perhaps just boredom. But Thorin starts poking and tickling Jason from behind. The bickering soon evolves into a full-blown romance.

They become each other’s first love. First kiss. First everything. Over a decade later, they’re still happily together.

As unbelievable as this sounds, this is not the plot of a new Netflix rom-com. This is a true story.

Can you imagine one male poking and tickling another? In a classroom? Something is a little unsettling about all of this. Perhaps the British guy was attracted to the "invisible" Asian since he would be so hard to get? Who knows?

Then their first kiss, which took place when they were working on a high project at one of their homes:

Thorin: "He said “I’m gonna nap” and then turned off the light. We laid on either side of this massive bed and one of us said they were cold (I think it was me). Then we kinda got closer until our faces were almost touching and he said “f*ck it” and kissed me."

That first kiss eventually culminated in their first relationship. Against all odds, their high school romance endured. 12 years on, Jason and Thorin are still going strong.

Was their relationship strong, though?

Here are later events that erupted in Jason and Thorin's relationship:

Jason: "In high school, Thorin always got a lot of attention. I felt like I wasn’t as noticeable. All of my special traits were kind of overshadowed by him.

"For a brief period of time, I forced him to adopt an American accent since the English accent really pulled a lot of unwanted attention. I wanted to go into the relationship as an equal, not someone that was inferior.

"It turned into several weeks of disagreements and almost break-ups."

Already, attachment issues were surfacing.

But then over a decade later, consider this:

The next big change to their relationship would come in 2016. After 8 monogamous years together, they decided to open up their relationship while on holiday in Vietnam.

Thorin: "We were 26, had just had 4 Vietnamese coffees. It was 2am, and neither could sleep."

"We began discussing sexual fantasies and Jason shared the sentiment that we had only ever had sexual experiences with each other, and there had been a lot of hot guys especially that day on the streets of Ho Chih Minh City.

"He said something to the effect of “I’d want to have sex with hot guys while I’m still young and attractive” and I think we both shared that sentiment. So we downloaded Grindr."

For a couple that was so content with each other, they wanted to explore sexual fantasies with ... other men?

How is this love? How is this healthy? How is this fruitful? This is not a happy Rom-Com. This is pretty tragic.

Sadly, it's all too common for homosexuals. They do not settle down with one partner, but end up engaging with multiple partners. Some research suggests that the average number of partners is fifty!

Again, this is not some "Happily Ever After" story. Not at all. This is quite sad, pathetic even. A "couple" that had been together since high school has come to terms with the fact that they just want another sexual experience, or multiple sexual experiences. How is any of this love? How does any of this foster trust or intimacy?

Whatever men are seeking if they engage or indulge in homosexual behaviors, they simply will not find. Two men cannot complement each other, and their bodies cannot serve one another as a "help-meet". The same is true for two women.

Sean Foo shares his thoughts about how people would react to the news that this "gay high school romance" is actually pretty flimsy:

I know for a fact that some of you expecting a fairytale like romance will be disappointed to learn that Jason and Thorin are in an open relationship. That somehow, having an open relationship puts a stain on their long lasting romance.

Indeed, it does. This story turned out to be quite disappointing, even if someone were strongly pro-LGBT and willing to celebrate a male couple staying together through high school and beyond.

Yet, ironically enough, this pro-LGBT website once again shows how "straight people" have a better chance by design for a fulfilling relationship. Two men cannot satisfy the deeper emotional or psychological needs that they try to meet in a homosexual relationship. This matter goes beyond "the parts don't fit." Whatever fulfillment they were hoping to find in their sexual exploits, those needs were simply not met, and they ended up believing that the best forward was to open up their relationship.

I submit that Sean Foo took this post down because this whole story bolsters the larger argument, ultimately, that homosexuality is not a healthy, preserved, or fulfilling way of life. If two high school "sweet hearts" want to try something, or rather someone new and engage in all kinds of fantasies, it just goes to show that their "love" really was not love to begin with.

Therefore, when LGBT militants chant "Love is love", they are not telling the truth at all.

Cancel Culture is OK When It's Cancelling Cancerous Elements in the Culture

Dear Straight People is an LGBT website pushing stories about Southeast Asians "coming out" and other movements in the homosexual and transgender movement on the continent.

As homosexual activists are want to do, Dear Straight People wants to play victim, so they shared the post from Instagram (click here), detailing all the times that Singaporeans took pains to push out or reject perversion in their country. Then they claim: "Oh, look, you straight people were cancelling LGBT issues, performances, and peoples long before we started calling out TrueLove.Is. etc."

I must push back on this.

The issue is not about "cancel culture" per se. The issue is cancelling cancer vs. cancelling culture. LGBT behaviors and ideas are cancerous. They should be cancelled. Culture is essential to any country, and must not be cancelled.

It is A-OK to remove from the public sphere displays of sexual perversion and degradation. It is totally fitting and right to discriminate against dangerous, unhealthy behaviors and the destructive ideologies which promote them. LGBT behaviors should be re-deviantized.

Gay "Pastor" Harms The Church, Those In Need

For a long time, I have wanted to comment on this blog post:

https://dearstraightpeople.com/2016/08/27/out-of-the-closet-miak-siew-shares-his-story/

Miak Siew is the "pastor" for Free Community Church, the only LGBT-affirming "church" in Singapore.

This is a contradiction, of course. True Christian faith rejects sin, for the grace of God has appeared to all men, and the grace of God teaches us to deny ungodliness (cf Titus 2:11-14).

This corruption of the faith is becoming all too widespread in the world. It has moved into Asia at a growing pace, as well, and not just in Taiwan, a country which imposed fake marriage via judicial tyranny in 2019, although Taipei had been hosting gay pride parades since 2003.

It's really alarming when men claiming to be pastors go out of their way to teach people that homosexuality and transgenderism are acceptable, and do not contravene God's best for His creation.

This is really bad, and it needs to be confronted. The Gospel is for the whole world, even for those who struggle with same-sex temptations, gender dysphoria, and even for those who think that these behaviors are innate.

When people receive the truth of God's Word, when they are set free, taken from death to life, then the dead behaviors fall away.

Paul was clear-cut about the transformation that God's people undergo when they believe in Jesus:

"9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

The first part of the verse may alarm people, since Paul is condemning a long list of people for sins that they engage in. However, Paul's point to the Corinthians is that they are NOT fornicators, idolaters, homosexualts, etc. They have been washed, sanctified, and justified! They are not sinners anymore, but saints, so why act like sinners in the first place? 

"Awake to righteousness, and sin not; for some have not the knowledge of God: I speak this to your shame." (1 Corinthians 15:34)

Now, let me respond to the post specifically honoring this fake pastor:

Dear Straight People,

Meet 41-year old Miak Siew… An openly gay pastor in Singapore!

Miak is not your typical pastor. And I’m not saying that just because he’s gay. Dressed casually in the typical Singaporean ensemble of a T-shirt and shorts the first time we met, Miak certainly doesn’t fit into traditional notions of how a pastor should be like.

Any pastor who thinks that it is OK to live out the gay lifestyle is not a pastor. He is misleading the flock of parishioners attending his church. We should not spare our outrage about this. It's one thing for people to go to church, and they are still falling into these behaviors. The church is a hospital, not a country club. People who hear the Good News and learn about their new identity in Christ do not immediately leave behind their old behaviors. It takes time to learn all about your new life, your new standing, your new self in Christ Jesus.

In fact, Miak is about as Singaporean as one can be. He loves food. He’s hooked onto PokemonGo. And to my astonishment, he even dropped the F-word quite a few times during our first meeting!

A pastor who sleeps with the same sex, and who curses--he is not only not a typical pastor, one should ask whether he should be a pastor in the first place. A grown man playing PokemonGo is a little disturbing, too, I must add.

But Miak is not your typical Singaporean. As the Executive Pastor of Singapore’s only LGBT affirming church, Miak plays an important role in Singapore’s LGBT landscape. And while he may not conform to societal perceptions of how a pastor should be like, there’s no denying his immense contribution to the community.

The greatest affirmation that we need is righteousness, and that we receive as a gift, one that God so freely gives, and which He invites us to keep receiving (Romans 5:17). A pastor should not be worried about conforming to societal expectations, anyway. We are called to be in the world, but we are not of the world (1 Corinthians 5:9-10)

God uses all sorts of people to do God’s work, and it is human bias and prejudice that sets up all the barriers between us and God – who can be close to God, and who is to be kept away and kept out.

No, it is not human bias or prejudice. Let no one dodge or avoid this issue.

Sin is what keeps us from God, more than just human biases.

"1Behold, the LORD'S hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear:

 "2But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear." (Isaiah 59:1-2)

Notice that God does out of His way to make it a point that He has not separated Himself from man. In fact, when man first sinned, eating from the tree that was forbidden them, God sought out man, asking "Adam, where are you?" (Genesis 3:9)

One will notice in the discussion and focus on "Pastor" Miak that there is no mention of Jesus, as well as no mention of sin or deliverance or salvation. How sad!

How is it that this young man fell into gay behaviors, anyway?

Miak Siew Young

Miak first experienced same sex attraction at the age of 4 but he remained in denial throughout his teenage years.

At four years old? Seriously? What is the real nature of this attraction? This dynamic makes no sense, and I must say is quite troubling. It's one thing for a younger male to want to bond with older males. That is a healthy emotional and psychological need which all males have, and which a father meets as part of the natural, proper upbringing of children. When there is no father present in the home, or when the father is particularly distant, and the mother takes over in an imposing manner, homosexual feelings can start to arise.

"I thought, like many of the books I read back then said, that it was a phase. And I thought I would somehow magically snap out of it when I turned 21."

So one finds that there was a sense of shame and confusion in his life about these feelings. It is indeed interesting that we get very little information about his relationship with his parents at this time. 

Growing up during a time when LGBT related information was scarce, living in a heteronormative world wasn’t easy. And Miak certainly felt the pressure to conform. Like most of his peers, he tried chasing girls but that never worked out.

"Heteronormative" is an abnormal word to make the normal appear abnormal. This is quite wrong, and very much akin to Isaiah 5:20. The notion that we should call good evil, and evil good is ... evil in itself. To call healthy and natural desires and behaviors unnatural is also quite disconcerting.

"There was no internet back in those days. It is hard to imagine for many young people today. There is little access to information. I remember trying to find information in books and many of them described it as a phase.

"The only presentation of gay men in the media that I saw were effeminate men – something I couldn’t identify with."

The need to identify with men, that need stands out in this part of the story. There is nothing wrong with a boy wanting to find emotional fulfillment in bonding with other men. But to fulfill that need with sexual behavior is not healthy, not wise, not suitable.

Miak Siew 2007

It wasn’t till the 1990s when the internet penetrated Singaporean households that Miak found others that he could relate to.

He connected with other gay Singaporeans through popular messenger service IRC. On their first group outing, he realised that there were many other gay men like him who did not fit into the media’s stereotypical representation of gay men. Not long after, Miak decided to pluck up the courage to venture into a gay club for the first time.

It's really disturbing to read about a gay "pastor" who frequented bars to find love and affection. Truly, there is something wrong with this picture.

I saw gay guys who were older and I saw who I am, and who I can be. Not the stereotypical gay guy – but a guy who just happens to be gay.

However, "Pastor" Miak makes his gayness a key feature of his existence. It is not something tangential or incidental, but essential to his being and bearing in the world. Homosexual activists attempt to have it both ways, but they cannot. They want to promote themselves as spokesmen and ambassadors for LGBT causes, but then at the same time they do not want people to think of them as "the gay guy". They want to push the manifest that they are "normal", when in reality the behaviors are abnormal, aberrant, a maladjustment which simply cannot meet the needs that they feel.

It was also around this time that Miak embarked on his journey towards becoming a man of God.

Initially, like most LGBT individuals, Miak too had trouble reconciling his sexuality with his religion.

"I avoided church for quite a while. Part of me had internalised the Church’s stand – that homosexuality is a sin, and the two are irreconcilable."

It's not the stand of "The Church". It's God standard, not just in the Old Testament, either.

But God works in mysterious ways and in Miak’s case, it was the aftermath of the 9/11 terrorist attacks that prompted Miak’s return to the Church.

"There was a SMS message that went around  about a candlelight vigil for 9/11. I went with another friend, only to discover that the candlelight vigil was very different from the one we imagined.

"Seeing that there were others like us who were not comfortable with that, we decided to  gather at another part of the gardens and do something closer to what we understood as a candlelight vigil. 

"I felt as though I was guided to what to say. It was, I guess, my first sermon."

Miak started attending Free Community Church (known as Safehaven back then) soon after – Singapore’s only LGBT affirming Church.

A church cannot be a church when it is affirming sin. This is all wrong.

He went on to become more and more involved in Free Community Church’s activities, often handling the logistics side of its events. Despite his heavy involvement, he never dared to take up leadership positions because he felt that his personality made him ill-suited for such roles.

No one is free if they are in bondage to sin:

"32And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:32)

and

"36If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed." (John 8:36)

I didn’t take a big role because I thought that to be a leader in church, you need to be “holy holy“.

In 2005, Miak started a support group called ‘Living Water’ that focuses on helping people reconcile their religion with their sexuality. For 3 hours each week, the support group would meet up to explore various interpretations of biblical passages.

Notice how much of Miak's work has to do with justifying behaviors that cannot be justified. Where is the preaching of the Gospel? Where is the Good News which informs us that we have been made the righteousness of God in Christ? (2 Corinthians 5:21)

Eventually, Miak decided to dedicate his life to helping people reconcile their faith with their sexuality and so he packed his bags and left for the US to study theology.

A pastor's job is not about helping people reconcile sinful behaviors as if they are acceptable. What's more, the real calling of a pastor is to announce to the world that God has reconciled Himself to us through His Son!

"18And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; 19To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.20Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ's stead, be ye reconciled to God." (2 Corinthians 5:18-20)

That's a much better message to share with the world!

"In 2008, much to the surprise to many of my friends, I headed to Pacific School of Religion in Berkeley, California. I graduated in 2011 and returned to serve in Free Community Church as the pastor."

He went to a "progressive" seminary in a progressive city in a progressive state. What could go wrong?

While Miak may have finally found his true calling, life as a pastor certainly has its challenges.

In order to become a pastor, Miak had to sacrifice a cushy corporate job and take on a massive pay cut. He candidly reveals that his current income as a pastor now is almost half of what he used to earn.

But the greatest challenge for him as a pastor is that it has adversely affected his dating life. Miak has been single ever since he became a pastor. And he reveals with a wry smile that his potential dates often ignore him the second he tells them his occupation.

Wow! The "pastor" is so worried about not having a partner. Has it occured to him that engaging in such conduct would be even more harmful, to himself as well as to others? There is some good in the fact that he does not have a "significant" other. How is it possible for anyone to think that they can be pastors, ministers of God's goodness, while at the same time living out a lie?

In spite of the difficulties, Miak has never had any regrets for his career choice. And he aspires to  one day, ‘conduct the first legally recognised same-sex marriage in Singapore.’

This is also very disturbing. It's becoming clear to anyone reading these commentaries that Miak Siew does not care about God, does not care about Jesus, does not care about sharing the Good News. This man is not a pastor in any true sense.

Outside of his involvement with the LGBT community, Miak’s a big fan of Star Wars and comic books. His favourite outdoor activities include running and swimming and he’s also quite the nature buff.

Miak has very kindly taken time out of his busy schedule to answer our Q&A so read on to find out more about his story!

1. How was your first coming out experience like?

I came out to my best friend.  It took quite a while because we are really, really close.

I was beating around the bush – and I said something like “I have something to tell you, but i don’t know if i should because i can lose you as a friend.”

His reply was “Did you rape my sister? Murder my parents? No? Then what can you do that will make me stop being friends with you?”

I blurted out “I am gay.”

Silence. For what seems to be an eternity…

“So you like guys? So have you had sex with guys? How is it like?“

He is still my best friend today.

2. How did your family respond to your sexuality?

I came out to my mum over a letter when i was on my exchange programme in Finland. That was 1998/1999.

That was a considerable time that passed. He is now 45 going on 46 years old. He was 24 years old at the time when he first told his mother about his same-sex temptations.

She was affected by it – and I have come to realise that many parents blame themselves for their children being LGBT. They will think that they have failed in some way or another. I think in many cases they will try to be stricter with their LGBT children in an attempt to correct or compensate for their perceived failure as parents.

I guess in the first few years, it was more of “let’s not talk about it.” In the past decade, my parents have been supportive of the work i do. When I graduated from seminary, they flew over for my graduation with 2 of my friends, and we went on a road trip together. 

I notice that Miak does not talk about his father that much. I truly wonder what his response was when his son came out to him.

3. What motivated you to become a pastor?

After several runs and seeing how the support group (Living Water) has helped many people, a thought came to me. If this is the result of spending 3 hours a week leading a support group, what would happen if I dedicated my life to this?

I kept running away from this question, but there was no escaping. It was a calling. And after much consideration, discernment, and consulting many people – including Rev Yap Kim Hao, I realised this is what i am called to do.

4. What’s the greatest challenge that you face in being an openly gay pastor in Singapore?

Dating. Or the lack thereof. LOL

Seriously?! Creepy!

5. What has been the most rewarding thing about being a pastor at Free Community Church?

I have had the privilege of walking with folks in their darkest moments. I have had the privilege to celebrate the joy of finding the love of their lives. I have had the privilege to be with people in the last moments of their lives. I have had the privilege of bidding farewell to folks with their grieving friends and family.

It is humbling and rewarding at the same time.

6. What advice do you have for people struggling to reconcile their religion with their sexuality?

Religions are not monolithic. The Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh said that if there a thousand Buddhists in the room, there are a thousand Buddhisms. I think that’s the same for every religion.

Now we are getting to the heart of the matter. What is the real substance, not just style, of this man's faith?

Good religion, in my opinion, is life-giving. It anchors us and sustains us. I would tell folks not to give up trying to reconcile their faith with their sexuality, and definitely not to compartmentalise the two. i know far too many people who struggle with being authentic and honest about who they are and lead double lives that is at the detriment of their emotional, psychological and spiritual well-being. So many of them internalise their self-loathing and it becomes the source of hate and homophobia.

All of this focus on people fighting hard to reconcile themselves and their feelings, their identities, their thoughts. There is simply too much focus on self. Whre is the joy in that? Where is the liberty, the freedom, the grace in all of that?

There are LGBT people of faith who have found ways to reconcile their faith and their sexuality. Talk to them.

There are resources and books available from Pelangi Pride Centre ( http://www.pelangipridecentre.org/ ) Drop by on Saturday and borrow the books.

7. What do you think is the biggest misconception people have about the relationship between religion and sexuality?

Many folks think religion is against anything that is sexual. All they hear is “Thou shalt not.” But the reality is a little different. Go and read “Song of Songs” in the Bible. It will make you blush.

And notice that in the Song of Songs, it's a man and a woman, not two men, not two women. Notice also that a deeper, more intense reading will reveal Jesus' passionate love for His church! Why would anyone want to miss out on that to talk about reconciling what cannot be reconciled in the first place?

We need to be cognizant that the socio-cultural environment has great influence over any religion, and we need to be aware of how that affects religious perspectives of sexuality.

Religions seek to provide the answers to the questions about the meaning of life, the meaning of existence – and the questions posed, as well as the answers, change with time, especially with greater understanding and knowledge in the realm of science and reason.

WRONG. Christianity is not a religion, it is reality, expressed fully in the Person of Jesus Christ. Jesus is not an answer to the world's problems. He is THE Answer. He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Again, it is so sad that for all of his protestations about being a pastor, not once does Miak mention the Messiah. What a sad commentary, indeed.

8. Is there anything else you’d like to add?

Being gay is only as aspect of who I am.

I am passionate about justice issues – about equality, on migrant workers rights, against the death penalty, about interfaith dialogue, against violence as a solution to anything. I hope that we all look beyond what matters to us, and stand up and speak out for things that may not affect us.

His religion is Progressivism, clearly. He failed to mention his massive support for pedophile Amos Yee, too. Very disturbing.

I am moved and inspired by those straight allies who stand up for LGBT people at great cost to themselves that i will stand up for others who have little or no voice.

Final Reflection

I had wanted to write this indictment for some time, but finally I found the time to do it. This surge of "pastors" who promote and normalize homosexuality within the Christian faith need to be confronted, "outed" fully, if you know what I mean.

Men and women who engage in these behaviors are in pain. They have great need for true grace, wisdom and truth which reflects the fullness of the Gospel. They need to know that God did not send His Son to serve as an unattainable example. God sent His Son that everyone in the world would believe on Him, and thus live through Him (John 6:29; 1 John 4:9).

Fake pastors like Miak Siew are leading precious people astray, people who are in great need, who want to know, who need to know the Love of the Father, and yet this love is not being revealed to them at all! This is really distressing! 

Jesus could not have been clearer: "I have come that you might have life, and that more abundantly" (John 10:10). Jesus did not come to give more rules. Jesus did not come to show people how to live.

Jesus came to give us life, and more specifically HIS LIFE!

How cool is that?!

That sounds so much better than a life of chronically trying to reconcile one's religion and one's sexuality. If the matter was so easy to reconcile, why does it take so long? Why does it entail such an extensive, ongoing process? Why does it not finally resolve itself?

Because darkness cannot coexist with light, because Jesus died to set us free from sin, and to grant His standing in His own life! If we are  under grace, then sin cannot have dominion over us! (Romans 6:14).

It is really disturbing, frustrating, painful that there are people who seek out Free Community Church or other so-called "faith communities" because they struggle with same-sex temptations or gender dysphoria. Instead of hearing the Gospel of Grace which sets man free, they hear "You were born that way, and it is OK to be gay." And yet, even the gay Christians themselves know inside that this is not God's best for them. There are too many testimonies which push past this lie that "gay Christianity" is a real thing. It just is not so.

In fact, I have a friend who attended Free Community Church for one year. He was discomfited by the fact that the pastor and the leadership spent so much time justifying LGBT behaviors and ideologies as composite with God's Word and His holiness. There was such a focus on homosexuality and transgenderism. In small group, he had to deal with the unpleasant phenomenon of other men hitting on him, too.

Ultimately, he left that church and sought fellowship elsewhere. 

If this community churhc was really offering something that people needed, there would not be stories like the one that I shared with you. 

There is a real hunger for love and acceptance, and it cannot be found in trying to be something that you are not. The lack of fearless preaching of the Gospel has led to such confusion around the world. And fake pastors like Miak Siew make it all the worse.